You know those days when your thoughts
swing on mental vines from subject to subject? The days when you
find yourself standing in another room with no earthly idea why you
are there, and it's hard to focus on anything for more than a few
minutes? Monkey Mind Days. They happen a lot in the spring.
They're a sure sign I need to meditate to clean out the short term
memory banks.
Wait, what is that shiny object over there?...
The Monkey Mind was on all day
yesterday.
Nowadays, if I'm going to use a drawing
in a post, I finish the very time-consuming drawing before I actually
do any writing. The following is what the Monkey Mind was coming up
with while I was painting the booties.
"I love this outfit. I really
love, love, LOVE these flower-dy jeans. They look awful blue grey
here. They're really a dark charcoal. Don't worry about it, no one
will ever know if you don't tell them.
Is this outfit too young for me?
Naaaah. Well, maybe. But I don't care, I'll wear it anyway 'cause I
love it. Susan Sarandon would SO wear this outfit. Wow... you sure
do worry a lot about age appropriateness, especially when you have
the gall to tell everyone else not to. You worry too much. Nobody
listens to you anyway, so why make yourself crazy? Yeah, but I don't
want to LOOK crazy.
No. This is cute, and even if it is too
young, it works.
It works ... what does that
even mean? You heard it all the way through art school in every
critique you ever sat through, and used it yourself. A lot. It's
sort of like the French je ne sais quoi. It's that
indefinable thing about something that you like. Not completely
indefinable ... might be the whole outfit brings a vague pleasant
memory, or you loved James Dean and Joan Jett and they always wore a
motorcycle jacket, or that the color peach really flatters near your
face. Or that floral print jeans just feel modern to you. Too
trivial to say, or even think very hard about, so you just say "It
works." Huh.
Actually, it's that the jacket
keeps the flower-dy jeans from looking too sweet. As do the booties.
How can anything called a bootie not be sweet? Glad I found this
coral (peach?) t-shirt in last year's stuff. The length works, and
covers the old tummy just fine.
Speaking of covering the tummy, it's
almost time to get out the put away the dark Spanx tights. I'm gonna
miss them. But that means it time to bring out the Spanx long-panty
things! Yeaaaay. I do not get those women who go on about why they
don't need them, would NEVER wear them. Yeah, well, maybe not.
Lucky them. Or maybe they should wear them, but just haven't figured
it out! Ha! They probably are too young to remember how awful real
girdles were. Nope, I love me some Spanx. Sleek and comfy. They
make it possible to wear dresses in insane heat. They wick, they
don't make you sweat more! And they're not so hard to get into.
Only one or two hits on the asthma inhaler, and you've got 'um on.
Why doesn't someone invent a wee,
tiny little panty that controls the tummy and eliminates VPL? Like a
control top thong. Maybe not.
Speaking of things not so useful,
that "Leibster Award" didn't amount to many hits. Many real hits, that
is. I did start to get a whole lot of link-spam from the always
charming "Anonymous". Gotta put the old "Prove You're
not a Robot" thing back on. Anyway, it's not the number of
hits, its the fun comments. And the answers to the questions. Maybe
we could invent a variation on the Liebster by just sending around
only a set of style questions. Call it "Style Tag for Nosy
People", and play it like real tag.
Nope ... just what we need is another
techno-annoyance in the form of chain letters. Better not.
Speaking of "better not" ...
isn't there some chocolate still hidden in the back of the pantry?"
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And that is how it went, all in the
space of a few minutes. Hope your day was a lot more organized and
focused. But I got it done, and am ready to join the Always
Perfectly Organized Patti at Visible Monday at Not Dead Yet Style . Late as always, but
there we are!
Ah, you finally got to the chocolate : > Wonderful James-Joyce-ian commentary you have going on, Jan! Cool art too. Thanks for linking up!
ReplyDeleteSince this is the first and last time my name is likely to be found in the same sentence as that of James Joyce, I have to bask in it for a second! FYI, there wasn't any chocolate left when I got there. Sad.
DeleteSo glad you liked my drawing! Thanks again for all, Patti.
I have flowery trousers and I do love them - I also am finding off late that I too am worrying about age appropriateness, despite always telling everyone else not to - it's a very recent thing and I'm not sure what has brought it on, and I am I'm glad you've said it happens to you too - I'm trying to shut the voice up. I might do it by taking your advice about pairing a biker with my floral trousers - it's a good tip!
ReplyDeleteI was interested to read on one of your comments on my post that you trained in fine art as a painter - is this the reason why you paint these drawings of yourself for your outfit posts? Or are you camera shy?
I think this self-checking about age is a good thing. The reality is that some stuff just doesn't look good on most older women. The worst thing about the perception of dressing too young is that it indicates a lack of self-esteem ...or too much self-esteem. One of those. Both should be avoided. ( You can worry about this more when you actually start getting older. You are still very young, and shouldn't give it a second thought. It happens to me because I AM old.)
DeleteRegarding the drawings ... kind of, to both guesses. I haven't done any drawing in a long time (decades!) and I am so wowed by the technology that it seems like a good time, and my blog seems a good place to play. It's not like I have to submit my work to an art director for approval. I'm the art director now! I love that.
And I admit to not being happy about how I look in photos. I like the way I look in the mirror, though, so my drawings reflect more of that, I think. Mostly, it's just fun!
I really appreciate the interest. Thanks for asking.
OMG. I'm running out of breath keeping up with you! All good, mind you. I happen to love the floral jeans although I don't own any. That might have to change.
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by Jean ... I always note your comments with the greatest of pleasure. Since you are one of those women who can wear anything, I have no doubt you'd look amazing in what ever pattern you'd choose!
DeleteControl top thongs...that is soooo funny, and icky at the same time.
ReplyDeleteAs I type, I look down at my floral jeans and assure them they will never become too young for me. I love your look, edged up a bit with the jacket; it je ne sais quois...works, that's it.
Now go get yourself that piece of chocolate. Or banana?
Sue xo
Just saw you post on polka dot DYI ... You are just the best thing since sliced bread, Sue!!!! Definitely gonna try it!
DeleteSad ... the chocolate was gone.
Basic zoo rules, Sue ... don't feed the Monkey!
One, cute outfit and definitely too fun not to wear. Two, love the drawing again. Three, I'm not going to lie, I was pretty happy when I hi two hundred GFC followers because I could no longer be nominated for a Leibster Award. It was so flattering, but it's silly when you begin to get nominated so frequently. I'm sure this won't be the last one you get. :)
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Hey, Ginny! Thanks for stopping by. One ... glad you liked my getup. Two ... double glad you liked the drawing, too. Three... thanks for the encouraging words. I appreciate the interest so much!
DeleteHave a great week,
Jan
Jan! This is SO awesome. Your stream of consciousness post could be channeling my ever blabbering brain!
ReplyDeleteI think that your outfit is perfect. If you have any qualms about biker jackets being age appropriate then read the following posts. They certainly calmed my qualms.
http://amidprivilege.com/2013/02/middleaged-ladies-wear-biker-jackets/
http://materfamiliasknits.blogspot.ca/2010/09/motorcycle-mania-older-women-and.html
By the way, thank you so much for your thoughtful response to my online agoninzing about time management. I needed to hear every word of that. My perfectionist tendencies trip me up regularly. Your response was a needed reminder that authenticity is always better than perfection, which is illusive at best.
Your reminder about stasis made me catch my breath. You are absolutely right! All that I can do is try my best each day. Tonight that meant helping my daughter with a paper for school instead of blogging. It was time well invested. But I couldn't go to bed without thanking you for reminding me that I am perfect in my imperfections and to be accepting, not judgmental, of myself.
Nah ... the jacket wasn't an issue with Monkey. Thank you for the links, though! I've always thought the right one can make a woman look more feminine rather than less. Monkey was concerned with the medium sized pink flowers on my thighs! But so far, so good.
DeleteI'm so glad I had something of use to say! Time management is always an issue ... the drawings take a lot of time, and if I want to come out and play on Mondays, I battle for time with the weekend hours at the restaurant my Huz and I own. It's always crazy, and I know I'll never find real balance in this situation. It's fun and I usually get it all done, but often something has to give.
Here's to getting to the fun part every day!
I'm totally stealing your Monkey Mind phrase mainly because I can't blame it on Spring I think it happened when I turned 50, but it's a perfect analogy and I love it!
ReplyDeleteNow, can I also steal or borrow the outfit too? You are not and will never be too old for those flower-dy jeans. I just read another article on age approriate dressing that said my age should NOT wear ripped boyfriend jeans. Well, I LOVE my boyfriend jeans and plan to wear them whenever and wherever I choose. Really at our age who cares? And the spanx, I'm still laughing, probably because I'm one of those who have not tried them and most likely should.
Thanks for making me laugh tonight throughout your entire blog post, your mind must work on highspeed. Simply AMAZING!
So glad you got a chuckle. Yes, probably not just Spring for me either. Honestly, it's almost always not enough sleep the night before. I've seen you wear your boyfriend jeans ... and yes (!) they work for you perfectly. It's the totally grown-up styling you apply. You're so good at that.
DeleteWhen you ask, "Who cares at our age?" I know you mean it rhetorically, but I really do care. But only so far as my own best instincts dictate ... Monkey Mind is sometimes just part of it.
Now, if I can just get enough sleep tonight ...
Thanks so much for stopping by, Trina. I appreciate it.
Thank you for sharing that swing through the jungle of your thoughts, Jan! It sounds very familiar, the ongoing jabbering of an internal voice. Wittling, it's called here. Wittering, if you say it out loud.
ReplyDeleteThe outfit looks great, love the motorbike jacket with the floral jeans. I am surprised to hear you wittle about age-appropriateness. Surely the defining factor is whether you look and feel good in what you wear, regardless of age, and you are looking GOOD!
Another vote for Spanx (or in my case, a cheaper alternative) over here, I love them!
Now get some chocolate, you've earned it with all that thinking! xxxxxx
oh man, don't do the captcha - it's impossible to decipher!!!
DeleteSo glad to hear from you, Curtise! Always a treat.
DeleteYes, I wittle. (Great word ... I'll use it forever! Thanks!)
And yes, I like my jeans, and have great plans for them this summer. The pleasure of wearing them will help relieve the abject misery of our heat and humidity. I just know it.
But tragically, the chocolate was gone.
But the ice cream wasn't!
Have a great upcoming weekend.
I am impressed with your drawing!I also have a pair of similar flower jeans which I hardly wear for reasons of age appropriate and all that nonsense... inspired by your post I will dare and wear them today...
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing. Sara
Thanks you so much, Sara. The compliment means a lot coming from you.
DeleteI hope we get to see you in your print jeans at some point this season! You always style all your choices so well, with a sophistication I can only admire.
I'm so sorry you have difficulty commenting sometimes ... let's hope that's a thing of the past. I hate to miss your thoughts.
Have a great weekend!
It's not fair that someone should be so talented with both words and drawing. Jealous admiration. Your outfit is totally age appropriate, whatever that means. My gauge for that is if you feel comfortable in it, then trust your instincts.
ReplyDeleteAny post that combines Spanx + chocolate = perfection.
What a nice thing to say, Alison! I'm so glad you have fun with my drawings and my often silly posts. The admiration is mutual.
DeleteI have way too many "what was I thinking" moments and regrettable outfits. I probably need to at least self-check when the red flags pop up!
In my case, too much chocolate = Spanx. Perfection? Not so much.
Thanks for reading, and especially for your own very fun writing!
J
Yeah, I agree with the others. Forget about that age appropriate crap. Age appropriate to whom? Who cares anyway? If you like it and it makes you feel good, that's it. My mind chatter, though is not am I too old, but does that make me look too fat? So there you go, there's always something to chatter on about. I guess because its obvious that I'm old and I can't do anything about it. I'm still in some sort of denial about the fatness, probably because I could do something about it if I really committed to a lifestyle change.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, I enjoy your drawings of self. And I especially wanted to give you a shout out for participating in Style Imitating Art! I had missed the last one for the first time too. Hope you continue. Wish more people would play along...
Yup ... I was just fortunate that the Monkey didn't go to the "do they make me look fat" place. Happens, believe me.
DeleteSo glad you are enjoying the drawings. I'm doing something a bit more "mid-road" for the SIA this week ... and hope you can play. Thanks so much for helping me find it! The possibilities are wonderful.
Of course the outfit works just fine! And even though I'm pretty bad at english ... you are really a good with words! (and drawing ...)
ReplyDeleteYour English seems just fine to me, Ulla-Marie. Especially when you say such kind things about my blog! So happy you stopped by. I'm always very glad to hear from you.
DeleteHave a great weekend!
My monkey mind is so active today that I can't remember what I wanted to write here. It's off swinging on other mental vines. I thought that expression was brilliant by the way. "Mental Vines"... Of course, as I can't find my glasses, I misread it the first time. I thought it said "Metal Wines". Ooooh! If Joan Jett had a vineyard she could call it "Metal Wines". Though I wouldn't consider Joan Jett's music to be metal. Not exactly. I don't know what genre I'd classify it in....
ReplyDeleteYep. There's a lot of monkey mind going around this week.
Ha! Welcome to the Monkey House, Laurie. So glad you are making your foray into Visible Monday. Please keep it up, because there are a lot of great women to meet!
DeleteI think that this style is totally appropriate for your age...it's darling, it's hip, and it's edgy! I loved the wanderings of your mind...we can all probably relate to self-doubt and getting off on tangents...and it's okay!
ReplyDeleteI just saw a 'control' high-waisted thong by Bethany Frankel...if you're serious, you should check it out!
Thanks, Dawn! Glad you liked it and enjoyed the post!
DeleteYikes, I just saw Bethany Frankel's thong ... looks like one of the Spanx items. No matter who makes 'um, they look uncomfortable. But I may yet go there!
Have a great week. Btw ... I'm enjoying your new blog!
Thanks for stopping by my blog & I think your jeans are great because I just wore a similar pair here lol
ReplyDeletehttp://silhouettedefemme.blogspot.ca/2013/02/i-heart-heels.html
I don't care about the age crap thing because I have always worn what I like even if it not in style. btw....love your style of drawing!
Denise
Yes! Seems like roses are a natural for denim print! Gorgeous heels with the little ribbon back ... thanks for the direction.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you enjoy the drawing. I'm enjoying learning how to make them!
Thanks for stopping by.
I love your "monkey mind"!
ReplyDeleteSpanks: they do make me sweat. Just a FYI! (not a pleasant one I'm afraid) I do have a couple girldley-panty type of thingies. I dod better with those~
Can't get through summer here without them ... there ARE some of the Spanx line that look like they might not breathe as well as others.
DeleteHave a great week, and thanks for stopping by, Paula!
Hi there! I love this outfit, the jeans and jacket go so well together and you look great!
ReplyDeleteThanks for dropping by! Love your post on the kimono ... one of my fave looks. Gotta go back and look more soon!
DeleteWill be watching your blog with interest!
J.
I really love your jeans too! And I'm trying to wear more leather :-)
ReplyDeleteIt will be way too hot for leather here soon ... except for sandals and handbags! Enjoying it when it's still possible.
DeleteI always look forward to seeing what you put together.
J
Too young? Never! I think it's totally age appropriate. Moto jackets are like blazers, a staple, a basic, good for any age.
ReplyDeleteI bought this one a couple of years ago ... one of those early spring days when the weather went from balmy to chilly and rainy. We were a long way from home, and I was dressed too optimistically, so I just ducked into the shop and bought it!
DeleteHave a great week MM ...
I always look forward to your blog.
J
I'm glad I'm not the only one. (= (that works for several of the scenarios your musing presents). And I'm glad that, in the end, you talked yourself (more or less) into a good place (maybe, maybe not the back of the pantry with the chocolate). Reading this tickled me. Lynaea @ EverydayBloom.com
ReplyDeleteTickling was my goal. Glad you liked it. Tragically, there was no chocolate ... but there was ice cream! So, tragedy averted.
DeleteThanks, Lynaea for dropping by!
J
New to your site but not for long. I'll be here often. You're hilarious. As some would say, I identify. lol
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