Style-wonkette notes about fashion and personal style from Fort Smith, Arkansas, deep in rural America. For mature women, beldames, women of a certain age, matriarchs and fully grown-up females. Age is not nearly as important as your eye for style.
Monday, March 31, 2014
Co-Inspirator Women Bloggers
I'm always inspired by my sister
bloggers. I recently wrote about a Really Good Hair Day and some choice
compliments that resulted, and I was particularly inspired by a
comment from the lovely Alice at Happiness at Midlife .
Besides the nice things she wrote about
hair and outfits, she wisely noted:
"This is a good reminder to
compliment strangers when you mean it - it could really make their
day and who knows what kind of day they are having."
Alice is one of my Top-Ten Nice Person
Role Models, and you can see why by the thoughtful observation.
She's also freaking fabulous dresser, but that's another subject for
another post. She also knows what she's talking about. What she
suggests is something I've always done because it's a nice thing to
do; we all know how good it feels to hear that your best is noted by
someone. I also do it to keep my worst nature at bay. It's easy to
become judgmental and less than constructively critical when you're
looking around you to see what other women are wearing. (Especially when you're not feeling up to snuff yourself.) To curb my
natural inclination toward snarky mental comments, I began to discipline
myself by trying to find at least a couple of things that I like
about what I see other people wear. Finding one thing is easy.
Finding additional elements is sometimes a challenge, but it really makes
a difference in how I perceive other people in my limited little
Particularly older women. You have to
mean it, as Alice points out, because you can get yourself in
trouble if you don't. It hasn't been that long since I saw a very
elderly woman pacing along in her walker, looking very spiffy in the
red wool fedora and red leather gloves she'd chosen to go with her
tan coat and shoes. I caught her eye and, as I was about to sail
past her, I said, "Love your hat."
She said " Oh, thank you. What is
it you like about it?"
Nobody does that.
And, from her tone and a surprisingly
suspicious look in her eyes, I got the feeling she was taking me on.
She might have just been feeling chatty, but I'm pretty sure she
wondered if I was just being glib or condescending.
I replied, "Well, I like that
particular deep red. And I like it with your matching gloves. You
look very polished and put-together. I don't see that often here. "
"Hmmph," she said. "Glad
you like it. It was nice of you to say so."
If this was a test, I'm glad I passed
it. Clearly she had her BS meter fully charged and operational, like
so many of us little old ladies so often do. Yes. But I was glad that
I'd actually taken a second or two to take in the elements of her
outfit and appreciate it more fully. And I'm glad I said something,
because I think she was pleased. But it's always better to mean it,
and to leave them thinking that you know what you're talking about.
That makes it even better!
Another of my Sweetheart Bloggers List
toppers is the delightful Sue at A Colourful Canvas .
Sue is a consummate co-inspirator who
has cheerfully showed us all how sewing your own wardrobe can be an art form. At least when the needle is in Sue's facile fingers.
She's inspired me to quit griping about not finding any of the
spring midi skirts I want, and just get off my butt and make some.
So I did. Make one. An easy beginner pattern wasn't as easy as it might have been, and it's still too big in the waist. I've
already removed at least 5" off the finished skirt
circumference, so how much "ease" does anyone really need,
I ask. I'm disappointed that the gorgeous, rosy-metallic fabric
reads more like leather, but you get the idea.